People notice how you finish and end things, and it says a lot about your character. So study the way you end things. Do you do so in a healthy manner? Do you attack it recklessly, causing extra damage in the process? Do you end things prematurely? This week in Deeper Thoughts we’re going to talk about the impact the way you finish things (or lack thereof) reflects to the world your character.
Some people take on a project, job, mission, and never stop until it’s completed. Sometimes we do this knowing fully what to expect and execute it swiftly and expertly. Sometimes we take on something and have to learn along the way as you finish the task at hand, thus gaining the experience needed to be more efficient with it when the situation arises once again.
Then there are those who are lazy and don’t fulfill their commitments. They always have an excuse. “It’s too hard,” “I’m the only one who does anything,” “Everyone bullies me.” Sometimes they don’t even have an excuse. They’ll just decide they don’t want to do the thing and flake out.
Let’s take a look at some examples, shall we?
If a new job is too hard do you just give up or do you try to see if you just need to adjust to it? Did you establish boundaries or just assume it’s a bad fit? Do you quit without having a back up plan, thus causing you to stress when you struggle to make ends meet? Do you leave because “everyone’s mean to you?” Could that be because you think you know it all and keep making mistakes?
Keep in mind that it’s one thing to leave a job because the environment is toxic and detrimental to your wellbeing. Some jobs are just full of low vibrational people who want to see others as miserable as they are. Sometimes the job doesn’t align with you like you had hoped, and it might have been perfect for you at a different stage of your life, but currently isn’t. You need to evaluate the situation, but when any little excuse is enough to quit, it’s a pattern.
There was one time I left the restaurant industry to try sales. I loved the people I worked with, but I didn’t like the job itself. I didn’t like sitting around all day. I liked moving around. On top of that, the position they placed me in hadn’t been built up enough yet so I was making the same amount of money doing sales for 80 hours a week, that I could do in 25-30 at my old job. So I put in my notice and left to go back to my old job. Maybe the pay would’ve gotten better if I had stuck around longer and helped them build up that part of the company along with me, but I had financial responsibilities and it made more sense to make more money while using less of my time. On top of that though, sitting behind a desk all day was more draining to me than running around a busy restaurant. It didn’t match my energy so after two months it was time to go.
In a relationship do you just end things because of one tiny argument? Because things weren’t Disney Happily Ever After perfect? How did you end it? Did you have a discussion about the situation to see if it was a workability issue or a compatibility issue? Or did you just up and ghost them? (Abusive relationships are obviously a different story)
Relationships take work between two people. It’s never perfect and easy. There are always going to be difficult conversations to be had, but it is in these conversations that resolve, repair, and trust can be grown. You might find there are compatibility issues that means the relationship won’t work, but at least you were putting in the effort and not just giving up at the first sign of difficulty. These conversations can strengthen the relationship. If you just up and run at the first sign of something wrong, you’re never going to find a healthy relationship.
Do you just stop projects you’re working on because it suddenly becomes inconvenient? You said you’d help a friend move, but the day of the big move you decide to go to the lake with another group of friends. Did you call to let them know you weren’t going to make it or did you even call? Did you have a date planned with that cute girl from the coffee shop but got so caught up playing video games you were late and just said “oh well,” and just kept playing, without so much as a text?
Did you take on a project and give up because it was bigger than you expected it to be? Or did you give it your all and when you realized you weren’t up to the job yourself you found someone that could complete the task at hand in your stead? For example, did you think you could fix the kitchen sink, but for whatever reason couldn’t so you called a plumber to make sure the job still got done? There’s nothing wrong with not being able to do the job yourself as long as you can use your resources to make sure it just gets done.
Study yourself and how you end cycles and situations to make sure you do so in a healthy manner. If you’re honest and realize you’re always ending things in an unhealthy manner, then study yourself to see why that is. You might not think it’s a big deal now, but others will notice. If you have a pattern of just flaking or leaving when you’re needed and instead of following through on your word, no one will trust you. And even if you don’t realize it, not going through with things builds up distrust within yourself. Your subconscious mind picks up that you can’t be trusted to finish things. Hopefully this article will help you see if you’re ending things in a healthy manner or not.
Thank you again for reading, and have an enlightening day!
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