Our emotions are a compass. The problem we see in society today is that many people don’t realize this or know how to properly use that compass. They see them as things that feel good or things that need to be pushed down and rejected, while doing the latter only causes more problems.
Your emotions aren’t a bad thing. No one sees joy and happiness as bad, right? But even these positive emotions have a shadow side. If you’re only focusing on things that bring you joy, while neglecting the negative things going on around you, those negative things increase in effect. Focusing only on what feels good is escapism and bypassing.
These negative emotions we feel have a light side as well. They are indicators of things that make you feel unsafe, things that don’t resonate with you, things that show a boundary is being crossed, and things you need to journey inward to heal.
Unfortunately what many of us do is try to run from them or try to push them away. That burst of anger we feel or extreme sadness are compasses trying to point to us childhood trauma that needs healing. More often than not you’re not going to immediately know the event that caused that fragmentation within you and need to go deep inside yourself to find that source event.
Another issue many have with negative emotions is they fixate on them and the triggers that caused them. Instead of putting their energy into healing those traumas that are the root of the triggers they obsess over the feelings and what happened. This creates a cycle of pain that keeps increasing. Why are you obsessing over an incident? That’s what you should be answering and healing, not the situation itself.
Your emotions are here to help show you where you need change in your life. When we feel triggers such as anger, fear, or sadness, they’re signs of parts of us that need healing. They can also alert us to when we need to remove ourselves from certain people, places, or situations. You’re not feeling safe in this moment, just like back then, so you want to use that compass to find that core wound and what you needed back then so you can apply that/those things as an adult now.
On the flipside, our emotions can be indicators for things we do want more of in our lives. Emotions such as joy, love, and gratitude point us in the direction of the things we want in life, when we feel safe, and what fuels our soul. But as I stated above, many people want to simply lean into only things that feel good while rejecting anything that doesn’t feel good. This creates a false bubble reality and anything that threatens to pop that bubble sends them flailing about madly trying to protect it.
Friends and loved ones can try various ways to point out the issues going on in their life from a place of love and these people will simply state that they’re being too negative or ruining their vibe. They may even go so far as to push those people who truly have their best interest at heart away. You don’t push away what doesn’t feel good. You find a healthy way to fix it. Yes, sometimes that does mean leaving certain situations, but that’s not always the best option.
You can’t allow yourself to go too far one way or the other with your emotions. You can do and create things that continue to bring you joy, while also healing the things that bring you pain. “I can continue doing this, while working on and healing that,” so to speak.
Pay attention to your emotions and the messages they’re trying to send to you. Let them point the way so you can make the changes in your life that you need. Your emotions are a tool to indicate what feels right and wrong to you. Embrace the polarity and duality of them and use them to navigate and level yourself up.
Thank you for reading and have an enlightening day.
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