I decided before I built this site that I wanted to do more than sell products to people. I want to pass on lessons I’ve learned so others can use them on their own journey, should the advice apply to them. Keeping with that I’m going to share something I recently realized I’ve been doing at the subconscious level.
I’ve mentioned before on social media that often along your journey you’ll see you’re leaving people behind. This is usually because they don’t want to, or aren’t currently able to grow with you. You don’t want to be around people that put you in the situations you’ve deemed detrimental to you. You still hold love for those people, but you have to detach yourself from them.
While I’ve certainly been experiencing this I realized today that in some of the cases with some people has not been this situation. I learned I was retreating inward and creating a feeling of disconnection as a defense mechanism. I’ve been building my own wall within not to keep certain people out, but rather, to keep me in.
At the subconscious level I have been trying to separate myself from others so when the “inevitable” event (according to my subconscious) happens the pain will be lessened because I’ve already put that distance between them and myself.
When we go through a traumatic event our ego is constantly on the lookout for the potential of that event repeating and tries to do whatever it can to protect us from it happening again. I’ve stated before in other posts that the ego doesn’t do the things it does to sabotage us, but because it’s a part of us and wants to keep us safe.
Noticing these patterns and taking the time to find the core event that’s triggering them is essential in our growth. I won’t go into detail here what that event was for me, but as soon as I discovered what I was doing I knew what the trauma was. The next step for me will be to go inward and integrate that fragmented part of myself.
Developing self awareness is important. What I thought was a process of feeling isolated due not being able to connect with people turned out to be (in some cases) my subconscious trying to protect me from future pain. Fortunately a great friend was able to help me realize this.
The next time you’re feeling disconnected from someone or a group of people, take the time to check in with yourself and see if it’s because you no longer have the same things in common with them that you used to, or if it’s something deeper.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope it was helpful in some way. Have an enlightening day.
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