We all have within us a masculine and feminine mix of energies. No it’s not 50/50 and with each person it varies what the mix is. It’s part of being in a world with duality. So men, yes you do have some feminine energy. Women, you do indeed have some masculine energy. It’s not a bad thing, unless it’s out of control. This week in Deeper Thoughts we’re going to list a few examples to illustrate what I mean by this.
A major issue men have is an ego that’s so polarized that they neglect this aspect of themselves. It’s these nurturing aspects that allow you to make your girlfriend/wife feel seen, validated, and safe with you.
*When your girlfriend/wife is crying and you hold her to comfort her.
*When you buy her flowers or a gift randomly to make her feel special.
*When she’s upset about something and feeling sad and you want to try to make her feel better.
*Your best friend and his significant other break up and you’re concerned because he’s not taking it well.
*Your child is sick and miserable and you just want to do what you can to make them feel better.
These are nurturing aspects, which is attributed to FEMININE energies. As a man you do have to nurture her too, which nurtures the relationship. Nurturing your children fills them with feelings of safety. The difference is the way we go about expressing these tendencies vs. the way a woman goes about it.
No, as men we shouldn’t be overly nurturing, but we do need that aspect to a degree to help provide a sense of safety for women and children. If we didn’t have that all we’d be doing is fighting all day. Set the ego aside. It’ll be fine. We need that masculine and feminine mix within.
On the other side of the coin there are masculine energies within women that are there for their safety. Some of these qualities can show themselves in ways such as:
*Defending boundaries.
*Taking initiative to get things done.
*Using force/violence to protect children and loved ones. Think “Mama Bear” mode.
*Resorting to violence or always getting into fights due to unrestrained anger.
*Being the one to ask the guy out instead of being asked out.
While these are actions attributed to masculine qualities, in many of them they can keep the woman safe. But being in these energies for too long makes it harder for women to relax into their own feminine energies. Many women fall into the strong independent mentality, and while this is important, tends to add extra stressors without the proper masculine and feminine energy mix.
So yes, there’s a blend of both masculine and feminine energies in every person despite their gender, but finding the right balance is crucial. Leaning too far into one energy for too long puts you out of balance.
Hopefully reading this will help those new to this concept of an inner masculine and feminine mix within each of us see ways they have a mix residing in them and see if they’re leaning too heavily into one or the other. It’s good and healthy to have both, but you need to find that right balance for you.
Thank you for reading, and I hope you all have an enlightening day.
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